Poem about Not Judging People

by Jo-Ann Downey on May 31, 2010

in Inspiration

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Ah..isn’t it great to truly see a person and to be truly seen by someone?  As shared in, “Seeing from your Heart”, when you see someone primarily through your “thinking eyes” you tend to do things like compare, contrast, project past experiences into the future, play old stories in your head, insert your own preferences and judge.

See people through your heart-center; judgments of others be gone!

When You Know A Fellow by Edgar A. Guest (1881-1959)

When you get to know a fellow, know his joys and know his cares,
When you’ve come to understand him and the burdens that he bears,
When you’ve learned the fight he’s making and the troubles in his way,
Then you find that he is different than you thought him yesterday.
You find his faults are trivial and there’s not so much to blame
In the brother that you jeered at when you only knew his name.

You are quick to see the blemish in the distant neighbor’s style,
You can point to all his errors and may sneer at him the while,
And your prejudices fatten and your hates more violent grow
As you talk about the failures of the man you do not know,
But when drawn a little closer, and your hands and shoulders touch,
You find the traits you hated really don’t amount to much.

When you get to know a fellow, know his every mood and whim,
You being to find the texture of the splendid side of him;
You begin to understand him, and you cease to scoff and sneer;
For with understanding always prejudices disappear.
You begin to find his virtues and his faults you cease to tell,
For you seldom hate a fellow when you know him very well.

When next you start in sneering and your phrases turn to blame,
Know more of him you censure than his business and his name;
For it’s likely that acquaintance would your prejudice dispel
And you’d really come to like him if you know him very well.
When you get to know a fellow and you understand his ways,
Then his faults won’t really matter, for you’ll find a lot to praise.

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{ 6 comments… read them below or add one }

luche jane richa February 20, 2014 at 5:04 am

This thing is worth pondering for! I really reminded.Thank you .


Jo-Ann Downey February 20, 2014 at 5:28 pm

Yes, it is a beautiful poem to live by! Jo-Ann


NICOLE April 4, 2013 at 11:30 am

absolutely loved this poem. im a single mother in a community full of busy bodies, and this just brought a tear to my eye. im going to share it with everyone i know!! thank you


Jo-Ann Downey April 8, 2013 at 4:53 pm

Nicole- best of everything to you and please do share!


Shazzie D'Rodgers July 24, 2011 at 10:18 pm

Amaazing ! Love it !


Lynette May 30, 2011 at 8:21 pm

Love it!!! If everyone applied this to their life, the world would be a better place.


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