In a Hurry…In a Worry?

by Jo-Ann Downey

in Mental Clarity & Calmness

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Do you sometimes want to know the answer to something, or the outcome of a situation, right NOW?   Do you sometimes rush to get a project, or an errand, done?  Do you sometimes walk as if you are walking through a bad neighborhood when you are not?  In your hurry, do you sometimes break a dish, make a mistake, or feel anxious?

In a Hurry…in a Worry?

When you are in a hurry, it is likely that worry, or another negative emotion, is present.  I’m not talking about the “I have 10 minutes to get to my appointment” hurry where the root cause is typically a time management issue (see “Time Management & Time Consciousness”).  I’m talking about self-imposed hurry that comes from an emotional or mental place.  Examples include “I need to work faster (to be/feel valued)” or “I need to have the answer now (to be/feel in control).”

Perhaps you are in a hurry to talk to someone, to state your “case”, to produce a result, to get an answer, or to know why something did or didn’t happen.  This type of hurry comes from a place of fear, desire to control someone or something, or anxiety.

“Do not be in a hurry to tie what you cannot untie.” Proverb

“Never be in a hurry; do everything quietly and in a calm spirit.  Do not lose your inner peace for anything whatsoever, even if your whole world seems upset.”  St. Francis de Sales

What is Going on?

What are we really doing when we are in a hurry?  Maybe we should look at what we are not doing when we are in a hurry.  We are not in acceptance, we are not living in the present moment, we are not patient, we are not trusting, and we are not calm or patient.  Being in a hurry does not yield the best decisions, outcomes or relationships.  Your best decisions and outcomes are typically realized when you are calm, accepting, and patient.  Please see “Acceptance and Patience.”

“No one can get inner peace by pouncing on it.”  Harry Emerson Fosdick

Life = Experiences

We are the sum of our experiences, so why rush through your life experiences?  If you want the future to be now, then you are missing the experience of the present; essentially, you are missing your life.

Sometimes it is best to take the slow road and enjoy the ride, the scenery, and your fellow travelers.

Very Smart Girls pause when they find themselves in a hurry.

photo credit: fatboyke (Luc)

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