Have you ever felt like you were getting mixed messages from someone? Has someone’s actions, or reactions, ever surprised you? Have you ever wondered what someone was thinking?
Thought Precedes Action
To get insight into what someone is thinking simply look at their actions because thought precedes action. What people do, especially over time, represents their intentions, priorities, attitudes, and beliefs. Actions are very revealing.
“Trust only movement. Life happens at the level of events, not of words. Trust movement.” Alfred Adler
“As I grow older I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.” Andrew Carnegie
Actions and Reactions Speak Louder Than Words
As the saying goes, actions speak louder than words because it is easier to talk about something than to actually do something. Actions, in the form of reactions, are particularly insightful because reactions tend to be more spontaneous and less internally censored towards doing the “right” or “acceptable” thing.
“A person’s actions and reactions reflect their inner reality.” Jo-Ann Downey
Actions and reactions speak louder than words; however, words are powerful because they hold intention and create direction from which you make decisions. Please see “Intention Series: What is an Intention? Why are Intentions Important”, “How to Create Powerful Intentions”, or “The Secret Sauce of Intentions”. Clear intentions can guide action, but action (or non-action) brings words into reality.
Mixed Messages or Missed Messages?
If you feel like you are getting mixed messages it is time to ask yourself if you are truly getting mixed messages or if you are ignoring the messages that are present. Like you see in the photograph above, are you trying to make a Stop message into a Start message? Or are you ignoring the Stop message altogether? If you say Stop to someone, what is their reaction? When someone says Stop to you, how do you react? Observing your actions (not taking an action is also an action) and reactions are just as important as observing others. Honesty and courage, with yourself and others, is required.
Harmony exists when actions, reactions, and words match up. Remember not to miss the good messages in your life as well as the challenging ones!
Very Smart Girls don’t miss the real message.
photo credit: richard anderson