Comments on: Needs are Important…Really Important http://verysmartgirls.com/relationship-communication-skills/needs-are-important-really-important/ Practical Skills, Tools, and Wisdom to Build your Best Life (tm) Wed, 18 Jan 2012 01:27:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Jo-Ann Downey http://verysmartgirls.com/relationship-communication-skills/needs-are-important-really-important/comment-page-1/#comment-2436 Jo-Ann Downey Mon, 24 Jan 2011 18:18:33 +0000 http://verysmartgirls.com/?p=871#comment-2436 Sasha, Great awareness and I agree with you. In my experience, timing (pay special attention to non-verbal communication skills), seeking agreement from the other person before you give feedback, seeing where you are coming from (a peaceful place), and setting clear intentions are important elements to successful communication. I so much hear you Sasha and I hear how much you care about this person and the relationship. It sounds like you are holding a beautiful, open space for when the right time comes (versus being completely stuck), and it sounds like you will know exactly when the right time is- I acknowledge your intuition and keen awareness about timing. Sasha,
Great awareness and I agree with you. In my experience, timing (pay special attention to non-verbal communication skills), seeking agreement from the other person before you give feedback, seeing where you are coming from (a peaceful place), and setting clear intentions are important elements to successful communication. I so much hear you Sasha and I hear how much you care about this person and the relationship. It sounds like you are holding a beautiful, open space for when the right time comes (versus being completely stuck), and it sounds like you will know exactly when the right time is- I acknowledge your intuition and keen awareness about timing.

]]> By: Sasha http://verysmartgirls.com/relationship-communication-skills/needs-are-important-really-important/comment-page-1/#comment-2427 Sasha Sat, 22 Jan 2011 22:29:43 +0000 http://verysmartgirls.com/?p=871#comment-2427 Dear Jo-Ann, I have an urge to express my needs to my girlfriend and at the same time I don't want to put pressure on her as I want to be there for her as she's going through a rough time at this stage of her life. I'm scared to add to her rough times and worry about me while she has other things to worry about. The main problem with me is that I am a strong believer of things coming naturally, I don't want to ask for anything if it's not there. I need it so much though and I need it to come naturally so much, too. I'm stuck. Dear Jo-Ann,

I have an urge to express my needs to my girlfriend and at the same time I don’t want to put pressure on her as I want to be there for her as she’s going through a rough time at this stage of her life. I’m scared to add to her rough times and worry about me while she has other things to worry about. The main problem with me is that I am a strong believer of things coming naturally, I don’t want to ask for anything if it’s not there. I need it so much though and I need it to come naturally so much, too. I’m stuck.

]]> By: Jo-Ann Downey http://verysmartgirls.com/relationship-communication-skills/needs-are-important-really-important/comment-page-1/#comment-682 Jo-Ann Downey Mon, 24 May 2010 16:31:13 +0000 http://verysmartgirls.com/?p=871#comment-682 Roxanne, Thank you! I had an experience the other day to gracefully express my needs, however, my timing was a little off. I am now more conscious to check in with the other person (and watch for non-verbal communication signs) before having a potentially "deep" conversation :) Jo-Ann Roxanne,
Thank you! I had an experience the other day to gracefully express my needs, however, my timing was a little off. I am now more conscious to check in with the other person (and watch for non-verbal communication signs) before having a potentially “deep” conversation :) Jo-Ann

]]> By: Roxanne http://verysmartgirls.com/relationship-communication-skills/needs-are-important-really-important/comment-page-1/#comment-681 Roxanne Sun, 23 May 2010 20:31:01 +0000 http://verysmartgirls.com/?p=871#comment-681 Jo-Ann, Loved this. As you stated I think we all should be aware of our needs, but often forget others have needs also. Liked the suggestions for expressing your needs. Nice job once again. Roxanne Jo-Ann,
Loved this. As you stated I think we all should be aware of our needs, but often forget others have needs also. Liked the suggestions for expressing your needs. Nice job once again.
Roxanne

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