Seeing from your Heart

by Jo-Ann Downey

in Relationship Communication Skills

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What do you see when you look at someone?  Do you focus on their physical attributes, their clothes, their circumstances, their behavior or their beliefs?  When you see through “thinking eyes” it is easy to judge situations and people.

Thinking Eyes versus Seeing from your Heart

When you see someone primarily with “thinking eyes” you tend to do things like compare, contrast, project past experiences into the future, play old stories in your head, insert your own preferences and judge.  You are likely to want to take action and/or control or fix someone or something.

To see someone as a whole and perfect human being, as someone who is always doing their best, you must feel kindness, compassion, appreciation and reverence. To do that, you need to get out of your head and into your heart where these feelings reside.  You need to see from your heart.

“The heart has eyes which the brain knows nothing of.” Charles H. Perkhurst

Nonverbal Communication

As shared in “The 93% Impact of Nonverbal Communication”, 93% of the message you send is through nonverbal communication such as body language, voice tone, gestures and facial expressions.  How you truly see others and what messages you send is primarily a silent effort; words only count for 7% of the message you send.  Where you are coming from is far more important than what you say.

Nonverbal communication is a two-way street.  To truly hear someone is to also listen and acknowledge their silent messages.

Attitude and Intention

As shared in “When your Relationships are Good, your Life is Good”, the great news is that you have complete control over 2 powerful relationship communication skills, your attitude and your intentions.  Are you willing to set an intention to truly see, and be with others, from a place of acceptance and unconditional kindness?  Can you see, and be with, yourself in the same way?

“Be kind whenever possible.  It is always possible.”  Dalai Lama

Very Smart Girls see from their heart.

*2021 update* I am currently blogging on my new site BeAllofYouToday. 
An update to this blog can be found here.

photo credit: marimoon

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