There is No Such Thing as a Table for Two

by Jo-Ann Downey

in Relationship Communication Skills

Post image for There is No Such Thing as a Table for Two

Each of us is complex and unique.  Even if there are only 2 people together, let’s say sharing a meal, There is No Such Thing as a Table for Two!  The intention of this article is to increase your awareness about relationship dynamics and the need for effective relationship communication skills.  Let’s go.

Effective Communication – How Many People are Here?

You have many aspects of yourself- your joyful self, your upset self, your mature self, your immature self, your perceptions, your beliefs, who you think you are, who you think the other person is, etc.

Now think about the fact that the person you are with also has many aspects- their joyful self, their upset self, their mature self, their immature self, their perceptions, their beliefs, who they think they are, who they think you are, etc.

The list is probably infinite and some aspects of yourself, and others, have more “juice” than others.  Clearly, there is a lot going on.

Relationship Communication- Who is Talking to Who?

With every communication opportunity, there are many dynamics and they can change from minute to minute.

For example, your mature self might be talking to someone’s immature self.  Your belief that punctuality is important may collide with someone’s nature to be carefree.

You should assume that you never know exactly what is going on (perhaps even with yourself), so listen well – to yourself and others.

Your awareness that There is no Such Thing as a Table for Two should help you to be more understanding of others and all the variables in play. This puts you on the right track for more effective communication and better relationships.

photo credit: Greg Halvorsen

Previous post:

Next post: