When your Relationships are Good, your Life is Good

by Jo-Ann Downey

in Relationship Communication Skills

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Have you noticed that even if something in your life is not going well, when your relationships are good, you feel better and more complete in the world?  When your relationships are good, your life is good.  The great news is that you control 2 powerful relationship skills- your attitude and your intentions.

Relationship Skill: Positive Attitude

There are almost 7 billion people in the world.  Yes, 7 billion.  The land mass of earth is 45 million square miles. The fact that you are in the same place, at the same time, with a particular person is an extraordinary occurrence. Be conscious of how remarkable it is to be with the person you are with.

Go into every encounter with another person with positive attitude- a willingness, a state of mind and a vision for a constructive outcome. Bring forward your supportive and constructive qualities – love, joy, compassion, kindness, patience, honesty, respect and gratitude.  Bring forward these qualities in service to yourself and the other person.

“Be kind whenever possible.  It is always possible.” Dalai Lama

Relationship Skill: Set Clear Intentions

An intention is a clear and positive statement of an outcome you want to experience. Your intentions guide your thoughts, attitude and actions; therefore, your intentions influence the outcome of your desired experience.  Don’t leave intentions up to chance!

Before you meet someone, or talk to someone on the telephone, take a few seconds and silently create an intention.  If you are comfortable stating your intention to the other person, great.  Formulate your intention in a proactive and positive (versus negative) way; express what you want to experience versus what you don’t want to experience.

An example of a negative intention: It is my intention not to get mad at my friend during lunch today.  The positive would be: It is my intention to be lovingly present with my friend during lunch today.

Below are some relationship intentions for your consideration:

∞ It is my intention to have positive thoughts, words and actions with my daughter today.
∞ It is my intention to easily and gracefully experience joy & connectedness with my co-workers.
∞ It is my intention to easily, calmly and gracefully share my feelings with my partner.
∞ It is my intention to be kind, no matter what, with everyone I am with today.

It is my intention to see the divine essence in everyone. I invite you to share a relationship intention and begin the process of experiencing it!

photo credit: mrvklaw

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